The 4 Golden Words That Will Open Your Donor’s Heart to Your Cause

I’m about to reveal my Golden Formula for opening a donor’s heart to my cause.

I also use this to find out what a donor is thinking about my presentation.

I use these 4 words all the time – and I get terrific benefits and feedback!  I can’t tell you how valuable they have been to me.

It’s a very simple, single question. And it is guaranteed to evoke a response from your donor that tells you where he stands.

But more importantly, it generates the donor’s own thinking about your issue.

It encourages him to ponder your presentation, to digest your material, to think about it, to react to it. It encourages him to embrace what you have just said.

Here is my key to success.

I ask this Golden Question:

“What are your impressions? . . . .

And then I shut up and listen carefully.

This question encourages the donor to think more deeply about what you’ve presented. She is not going to get hot and bothered about your cause just by listening to YOU do all the talking.

She needs time to mull over what you’ve said.  She needs to “stew” in the urgent need or bold vision that you’ve just presented to her.

So you ask the Golden Question and you sit tight.

What will you find out?

You’ll find out where your donor stands! : )

You’ll get her to really react to you and what you’ve said.

You’ll get something much deeper – and more informative – from her. Much deeper than if you had just presented, thanked her and then left.

Remember it’s always all about the donor. We forget this. We think we have to be great salespeople and make a great pitch. NO!

What we have to do is FOCUS on the donor – and listen to him or her. We have to draw out the donor, and get her engaged with us about our cause. And you won’t do that if you do all the talking!

Here are some real-world situations where “What are your impressions?” has served my colleagues and me very well:

1.  I just conducted an Advice Visit with a potential donor to my favorite cause. At the end of our visit, I asked him “What are your impressions of these ideas? And he told me what his reservations were about our project. I was able to address these issues and he became a substantial donor.

2. I  was walking out of a facility tour with a major, major gift prospect. He was actually a candidate for the leadership gift in this campaign.  So I asked him: what were your impressions of the tour?” Well after 5 minutes of conversation – with some very careful maneuvering from me – he invited me to bring a $5ook proposal to his family foundation meeting the next week!

3.  I just made a presentation for a capital campaign consulting project that I would love to do.  I presented against one other firm.  As I was chatting with the President of the College afterwards, I asked him his impressions. He told me that he liked me a lot better than the other firm. : )

4. I train boards a lot in fundraising and friendmaking. But I can’t make it just a one-way presentation – I have to get them to ponder and digest the material we are discussing.

So I model the Golden Question all the time, frequently asking them “what are your impressions of these ideas” – it gets them to mull over the discussion and really embrace it.

5.  My friend, a Vice Chancellor at a major university recently made a big presentation to the Board of Visitors. She wanted to gauge the Chancellor’s reaction to her ideas.  She asked him, “What were your impressions of my presentation?’ And she got some terrific positive feedback!

What are your impressions of my post?  Leave a comment and tell me how you would use this idea.

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  • http://www.pricetower.org Laura Riley

    Gail, I always find something useful in your newsletters/columns blogs. Thanks for (again) reminding me to stay focused on the other person’s feelings and thoughts. For me, the challenge in using the Golden Question is always one of timing. When do I stop talking and ask the question? The answer involves reading the body language of the listener. Do you have any advice about non-verbal communication?

  • http://edentonhistoricalcommission Bob Quinn

    Gail,
    You make it so simple and right-on. Of course this is the right question, I should have used it yesterday, but will tomorrow. We had annual meeting yeterday. When I finished my pitch, your question would have gotten responses. As it was I got very little feedback.

    Thank you, again and again

    Bob

  • http://www.bgc-coastside.org Anna McDevitt

    Gail, I always love all your ideas/articles. I find them very useful and I frequently share them with my Board. Recently one of my Board Members said she really enjoyed last months article, and after reading it ,she now felt confident enough to approach some Donors! We are about to conduct some face to face asks and will definitely use this tip! “What are your impressions?”

  • Connie Jorgensen

    The simple brillance of this is that we all like to tell people what we think. When someone listens to our opinion we feel valued and appreciated and thus more involved with and attached to the organization.

    You can never go wrong if you ask for feedback and show respect for the response.

    Great post.

  • Nada Weekley

    Gail,

    Thank you for sharing one of your secrets! I can’t wait to try it! –Nada

  • http://www.artscentelive.org Ed Camp

    What a great piece of advice for those of us asking for advice. I’ve always heard open-ended questions work best. What a wise woman you are!

  • http://GailPerry.com Gail

    Thanks Ed! I know the ArtsCenter is glad to have your leadership!

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